The Decks
Which deck is best for me?
We currently have two decks available:
Dating & Couples
Long-Term & Married Couples
Coming soon:
Friends
For the two currently available, the loose rule of thumb would be:
Every couple should use Dating & Couples. If you've been together for a long time, there may be some things you've already asked, but likely there are plenty you haven't. This really is the foundation deck.
If you've been in a relationship for a year or more, try Long-Term & Married Couples.
But no matter how long you've been together, you will truly get something out of both decks.
Check out the Couples Bundle to save some money by buying them together.
How do I use these decks?
For more information on the best way to use these decks, check out the How to Play page.
If I am in a relationship, should I get the Dating & Couples or Long-Term & Married Couples deck?
Honestly? Both! Check out the Couples Bundle to save some money by buying them together. We believe every couple should use Dating & Couples. If you've been together for a long time, there may be some things you've already asked, but likely there are plenty you haven't. This really is the foundation deck.
However, if you're looking to start with just one:
If you've been in a relationship less than a year, try Dating & Couples.
If you've been in a relationship for a year or more, try Long-Term & Married Couples.
In which stage of dating should I use the Dating & Couples deck?
There are questions in the Dating & Couples deck that would be beneficial for a first date, but the real purpose of this deck is to use it to get to know someone new over time.
Think of this deck as having intro questions for date #1 and then getting deeper and more specific as you have more dates and spend time together over the course of those first few months and throughout that first year.
From there? Welcome in the Long-Term & Married Couples deck or just with the Couples Bundle from the get go.
What makes Everything Unsaid different from other question cards and conversation decks?
We are so glad you asked, because...lots of things 😊
Many decks out there create questions that cause conflict or use "shock value" questions as an attempt at creating connection. With Everything Unsaid, the questions have been intentionally created (by a real human, not just thrown together by AI) to create curiosity, support, and kindness.
These questions are also open-ended, allowing for meaningful conversation to flow rather than simple yes or no answers.
They are real questions for real people. They are grounded, meaningful, and based on real peoples' pain points and struggles...
Because these decks were created by someone who has worked as a practitioner in the mental health and healing field for 10+ years! So these questions aren't just randomly pieced together. They have been thoroughly thought out and put together based on work with countless clients like YOU who struggle with creating healthy connection, navigating dating, sustaining long-term commitment, and making new friends as an adult.
People also love the Divider Card touch to help you effortlessly keep track of which cards you have or have not used yet.
These are just a few of the many reasons. Check it out for yourself.
What kinds of questions are in the decks?
Each deck has 5 different categories ranging from fun and playful to inner and past reflection to more vulnerable and heart-centered. The relationship decks have questions around physical intimacy, as well.
Every question has been intentionally created to foster connection, not conflict. To understand if someone is in alignment with your values and what you're looking for. To ask the important questions now so you don't wake up 5 years from now wondering who the person next to you is.
Overall, these questions support curiosity, kindness, and meaningful connection.
Are the decks LGBTQ+ friendly?
Yes! Everyone is welcome here.
These decks are for any adult 18 years or older.
Are these decks meant for a particular age range?
Due to the mature nature of some of the questions, the relationship decks are for adults 18 years or older.
Will you be creating more types of decks?
Yes! Coming soon:
Friends
To get on the waitlist and be notified when it becomes available, join the newsletter here.
Orders
Can I change or cancel my order?
All sales are final so once your order is placed, you cannot cancel.
You can read the full Return/Exchange Policy here.
What is the return/exchange policy?
Unless the item is damaged, or the order was incorrect, please note all sales are final and may not be returned, canceled, or exchanged.
You can read the full Return/Exchange Policy here.
What is the shipping policy?
All Everything Unsaid orders are processed within 1-3 business days (M-F) after receiving your order confirmation email. We will always do our best to ship your order as soon as possible.
Once your order has shipped you will receive an email notification that includes your tracking information. Please allow 48 hours for the tracking information to become available.
If you haven’t received your order within 14 days of receiving your shipping confirmation email, please contact us with your name and order number, and we will look into it for you.
Is shipping outside of the U.S. available?
Yes! Currently we ship throughout Canada and most of Europe.
Who pays duties and taxes for international shipments?
All international orders are shipped DDU (Delivered Duty Unpaid). This means:
- Duties, taxes, and import fees are collected by your local customs authorities or carrier.
- These charges are not included in your order total at checkout.
- We may still collect applicable VAT or sales tax at checkout where required by law, and this is separate from any import duties or fees that may be charged on delivery.
- Customs processing may introduce additional delays beyond the transit times listed above.
Where is my order?
Once you place an order, you will receive a confirmation email that includes a tracking number. Refer to that link for shipping updates.
My tracking information says my package was delivered but I haven't received it. Now what?
We suggest waiting 24-48 hours. Oftentimes people receive notifications that the order was delivered but then receive it the following day.
If you still have not received it by then, please reach out to the mail carrier directly to submit a claim.
Support
I have a question - who do I contact?
You can email hello@everythingunsaid.com with all of your questions.
What if I feel nervous or awkward using these decks?
This is totally normal! Do you know what this means? That you care and that this means something to you. And that is so beautiful.
For all sorts of reasons it can feel very scary to put yourself out there, be vulnerable, and ask questions that most people don't ask each other (but should!).
Most of us were never taught or shown how to communicate effectively or how to create healthy relationships.
You can acknowledge the nervous and awkward feelings and then still show up and be open to the goodness that unfolds. Because you really deserve this level of connection even if - especially if - it's something you're not used to.
What if my partner won't use the decks with me?
I think the most important part of this is to understand the why?
Is it because they're nervous, feel awkward, or don't know how to express their feelings and be vulnerable? In which case they may need your love, safety, and assurance. Perhaps you start with the lighter categories.
Or is because they've completely shut down the idea and won't even discuss it as an option, unwilling to go deeper?
These are two very different energies and will give you understanding into the person you're with, the dynamic of your relationship, and if it aligns with what you need and want.
Do I have to ask the physical intimacy or money questions right away?
Absolutely not! Honor your discernment.
Especially for the Dating & Couples deck, maybe you're using this on first dates or maybe you start using it 2 months in once you're exclusive with someone new.
With the Long-Term & Married Couples deck, you may be very comfortable to use the ask these types of questions right away.
Whatever your situation, use your judgment to decide which questions suit your current stage – for example, you might skip intimacy topics until you're a few months into dating whereas some people may be ready to discuss these topics on the first date. Work on the timeline that suits you.
While these questions are a guide to create deep, meaningful connection you might not otherwise have access to, they are not to force you into discussing topics you're not yet ready to discuss.
Honor your boundaries and trust yourself.
What will I get out of these decks?
Here are some things that could happen by using these decks (although of course everyone's experience and situation is different so nothing is a for sure guarantee)...
Clarity on the relationships that are truly in alignment with what you need and want.
Deep, meaningful connection with people in your life.
Falling in love.
Honesty and vulnerability.
Making new friends that feel like family.
Understanding of your own desires, needs and inner self.
Support in asking the important questions that you may not otherwise ask.
Laughter, fun, and joy.
An opportunity to be seen and loved for exactly who you are (with the right people).
